Written By Cameron Stallard – QRL Content Producer
The current COVID-19 pandemic is evolving and changing moment by moment, bringing with it a range of uncertainty to not just rugby league, but life.
NRL consulting clinical psychologist Dr Lyndel Abbott and the Queensland Rugby League wellbeing and education team have some tips to help you maintain your mental health during this challenging time.
1. Control the controllables
Focusing on things outside our control can have a negative effect on our mental state. This can negatively affect your motivation to train / work, your energy levels and your thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
Whilst it’s important to acknowledge the things that are outside of your control, it’s important to refocus on the things that are within your control.
2. Stay structured and remember self care
Looking after yourself includes exercise, making healthy dietary choices, having a healthy sleep routine and maintaining structure in your day.
People are used to, and generally thrive on, structure and routine. Schedule in specific times to exercise, intentionally connect with family and friends (within the boundaries of the government’s social distancing guidelines), and do things you enjoy or find purpose and meaning in.
3. Know your strengths and values
Use your character strengths and core values to guide your decisions and actions.
In a time of uncertainty, the most certain things you have are your values. Rather than being guided by worry or unhelpful thinking styles, think about what’s important to you (values) and ways to cope that you would be proud of (strengths).
Be guided by the question ‘what is helpful right now?’ and remember, mood is contagious. Think about what the most helpful way of thinking and acting will be not only for yourself but for your family, friends, teammates and community.
4. Worry is normal – choose helpful worry strategies
Try to use problem-solving (helpful) worry rather than unhelpful worry which goes around in circles and doesn’t reach a solution or conclusion. Problem-solving is structured, solution-focused and logical.
Questions to help you apply a problem-solving approach to worry are:
- What am I worried about?
- Is the outcome, or any part of the outcome, within my control?
- If yes, what can I do about it (what actions can I take)?
- What are the pros and cons to each possible action?
- Which action makes the most sense and how/when will I implement this plan?
5. Focus on short-term goals
There are multiple reasons you feel uncertain at the moment – these may include uncertainty about your career, finances, studies, your own and your family’s health, the timeline of the pandemic.
In times of uncertainty, realistic short-term goals are important. Think about what you’d like to achieve over the next week and how you’re going to achieve that.
You can have multiple goals across a range of areas including social/family, community commitments, physical, self-development (for example, learning a new skill, studying).
You may also write a list of things you’ve been putting off and start to tick them off (whilst still following the social distancing policies of the government).
6. Stay connected
Social connection is important for our mental health, so think of other ways you can connect with friends and family whilst adhering to medical advice to distance yourself. This can include technologies such as video calling (for example, FaceTime, Skype) and instant messaging, but don’t be afraid to get creative in ways to stay connected throughout this challenging time.
7. Practice gratitude
Experiencing a range of emotions is completely understandable at this time; but there are still ways to use gratitude to keep things in perspective.
Gratitude practices can be as simple as listing the three best moments of your day, or the three things you’re most grateful for about today.
Paying attention to the things that we have can be a useful strategy at any time, but particularly in times of uncertainty.
8. Stay informed, within reason
It’s important to get your information from reliable sources such as the Department of Health.
Set yourself reasonable boundaries and try not to spend too much time checking different information sources as this can increase anxiety and worry.
9. Seek help if needed
If your mental state feels negatively impacted or unmanageable, please reach out to speak to a psychologist or one of the many support services:
- Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800 (Free call 24/7)
- Lifeline on 13 11 14 (Free call 24/7)
- headspace via headspace.org.au
Stay kind to one another and remember, rugby league is one big family that are here to support each other during this challenging time.